tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post549368149906309522..comments2024-02-11T23:03:48.418-08:00Comments on torthúil: One month and those multiple Kleenex momentstorthúilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-37175726935557594142014-12-02T12:58:44.734-08:002014-12-02T12:58:44.734-08:00thank you! glad the blog is helpful. I also found/...thank you! glad the blog is helpful. I also found/find the parenting blogs very helpful; everyone's story is unique but it does help to have a "sneak preview!"torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-14159079157851950372014-12-02T12:57:40.084-08:002014-12-02T12:57:40.084-08:00Aw, I'm sure it was so tough to be apart from...Aw, I'm sure it was so tough to be apart from your little one, for whatever reason! there's a line from a song that goes "Time started moving on the day we met" and I do feel it applies to being with our babies! I know, it's hard not to obsess over all the milestones but remember that life is change and movement, as your husband said.torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-62095206425271563822014-12-02T12:49:21.796-08:002014-12-02T12:49:21.796-08:00thank you! yes, it is tough and intense.thank you! yes, it is tough and intense.torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-1512202914343388012014-12-01T22:36:11.683-08:002014-12-01T22:36:11.683-08:00What a cutie! Thanks for being so honest about th...What a cutie! Thanks for being so honest about the feelings and how it can be tough and so intense. A Few Good Eggshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13654170259337486983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-82678329931082047152014-11-30T11:20:14.259-08:002014-11-30T11:20:14.259-08:00It's so wonderful to get these reports from th...It's so wonderful to get these reports from the other side. Knowing that it doesn't just turn into some fairytale once they're here, and that there are still emotional times in all directions. Thanks for the dispatch, troops. Happy one month to wonderful Alice. Adihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02489423723982017482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-36270811537450309782014-11-29T19:13:29.620-08:002014-11-29T19:13:29.620-08:00Such a beautiful post! I can so relate to your fee...Such a beautiful post! I can so relate to your feelings.<br /><br />I also struggle with the small frustrations and the guilt that follows, and the day/time milestones are also important to me for some reason. Soon after my son's birth, I got a postpartum infection and had to be readmitted to the hospital. The doctors discouraged having him stay with me because of the risk of him catching something with so many sick people on the floor, so he was at home with my mom. It was a Friday, and he had been born the previous Friday in the evening. I will always remember lying in that hospital bed and watching the minutes creep to the time of his birth and sobbing when the time finally came and passed. I felt so guilty for not being with him on his one-week birthday. It would have been hard regardless, but for some reason that milestone seemed so important to me. I still count the weeks and try to document the passing moments. <br /><br />Sometimes I almost panic, feeling the days and months slip through my fingers. I have cried about it many times, but as my husband gently reminds me, life is change and movement. I am so glad you are getting to cherish these beautiful moments with your precious baby girl. We will keep doing our best to appreciate all this beauty without getting overwhelmed by it. Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01507531522613335860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-28279079294937155782014-11-29T15:51:49.096-08:002014-11-29T15:51:49.096-08:00Thank you. Yes, having a baby really reminds me of...Thank you. Yes, having a baby really reminds me of how important it is to live in the moment and just go with what is offered. Sometimes it's hard but it is so magical too.torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-12647433135291184612014-11-29T15:50:57.539-08:002014-11-29T15:50:57.539-08:00Yes she does feel so big and heavy! I can't be...Yes she does feel so big and heavy! I can't believe some babies are born at 9lbs...yikes!! I know, I should expect a lot of emotion - sometimes it still surprises me how strong it is. I absolutely think that babies feel our tension (or the opposite). I know when I'm relaxed and able to be in the moment (kind of like successful meditation where you just focus on your breath and not distracting thoughts) then things seem much easier and she seems relaxed too. I can't always manage it, but it is helpful when I can. I know what you mean about SO seeming HUGE beside baby. The comparison is hilarious!torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-45146699217545612162014-11-29T04:12:19.966-08:002014-11-29T04:12:19.966-08:00Oh, that was such a sweet moment. Of course you ge...Oh, that was such a sweet moment. Of course you get tired and frustrated, but it's all these wonderful moments that you were waiting for all this time. You both are so beautifulAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-17781179061321301562014-11-29T00:23:25.062-08:002014-11-29T00:23:25.062-08:00Aw, that was such a sweet moment. Thanks for shari...Aw, that was such a sweet moment. Thanks for sharing. I remember being acutely aware of the one-week and two-weeks marks.<br />I think emotions run high during this time, and maybe the sleep deprivation and general exhaustion fuel them even more. It's so interesting that she stopped crying when you began - maybe the do feel our tension. I read they don't, but honestly, I don't believe that. <br />AJ looks so big! She is a bit bigger than SB from your numbers, but somehow she looks much bigger to me. I've found myself looking at my husband and thinking "Why is his face so big? Has it always been so big?", a little like Little Red Riding Hood, when really it's just the change in perspective after staring at a tiny face for most of the day.Conceptionally Challengedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07600863125990400886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-60258649012543610902014-11-28T14:32:30.946-08:002014-11-28T14:32:30.946-08:00Thank you! the milestones are so bittersweet. But ...Thank you! the milestones are so bittersweet. But what a wonderful time. torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-7331690883569357632014-11-28T14:00:42.039-08:002014-11-28T14:00:42.039-08:00What an amazing moment! Happy one month to you an...What an amazing moment! Happy one month to you and AJ!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11125140828976265146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-45073469094937353072014-11-28T12:25:27.449-08:002014-11-28T12:25:27.449-08:00so true Marcy! glad you are enjoying Zelda and hop...so true Marcy! glad you are enjoying Zelda and hope you are both feeling better too.torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-63439660100111886372014-11-28T12:11:21.534-08:002014-11-28T12:11:21.534-08:00Totally agree with the intense emotion. Several ti...Totally agree with the intense emotion. Several times now I've been overcome with joy for Zelda and the tears flow. Frustrations are quicker to happen as well, but pass quickly unlike the joy and love that continues to burn brighter. Marcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00622377397195134361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-5378080828063072142014-11-27T16:47:24.023-08:002014-11-27T16:47:24.023-08:00Thank you! I read you post and loved it. I think w...Thank you! I read you post and loved it. I think we were trying to say similar things, in different ways.torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-90977280155515516562014-11-27T16:43:26.440-08:002014-11-27T16:43:26.440-08:00yes she is. :-) Such a magical time. thanks for th...yes she is. :-) Such a magical time. thanks for the comment.torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-82017023737610544342014-11-27T16:18:57.767-08:002014-11-27T16:18:57.767-08:00Burst away! It IS an intense time, and from where ...Burst away! It IS an intense time, and from where I'm standing, not much changes in seven months (if you wanna talk emotional intensity, see my last post!). That sounds likea beautiful moment though. I'm glad you got to experience it. Your daughter is adorable. Enjoy her and also go easy on yourself. xoSadiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14325203869605294768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-24744027863970458882014-11-27T15:56:39.354-08:002014-11-27T15:56:39.354-08:00AWW what a tender moment you had with her. She is...AWW what a tender moment you had with her. She is already a little person of her own, getting cuter and cuter every time you post a pic. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-6849403374345902932014-11-27T13:22:47.553-08:002014-11-27T13:22:47.553-08:00thanks for the comment - great observations - I ag...thanks for the comment - great observations - I agree!!torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-23841434327509200452014-11-27T11:22:08.137-08:002014-11-27T11:22:08.137-08:00Awe she's adorable. I love her little outfit t...Awe she's adorable. I love her little outfit too. <br />Don't feel bad about getting frustrated. It's only human and I don't think any parent can escape those moments. What sets good parents apart is the recovery from such moments. I don't think there is anything wrong with our children seeing us get frustrated either; they'll learn from the way we handle ourselves. I have been frustrated with Sawyer and even asked him in a frustrated voice "why are you being so clingy tonight!" and then apologized to him for snapping, telling him I've had a long day and I will try my best to be more patient the rest of the evening. I honestly believe that they understand more than we think. <br /><br />The intensity of emotions hasn't gone away for me even at 18 months - of course not constant, but it does make it easier to reach for those feelings when I do feel frustrated. I actually feel very grateful for my experience with infertility because it has given me the gift of patience and gratefulness that I don't think I would have had otherwise. I hope you will experience it the same way. Romyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07457852015567687445noreply@blogger.com