tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post4640764923105437020..comments2024-02-11T23:03:48.418-08:00Comments on torthúil: Last of the 2020 musings (12/21 to 12/31)torthúilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-48610003021704458922021-01-18T16:17:56.069-08:002021-01-18T16:17:56.069-08:00Yup, it's interesting getting older and findin...Yup, it's interesting getting older and finding myself haunted by memories. Mostly good ones, but sometimes ones that are difficult. Ultimately life is a tragedy no matter what the memory is, because we have to let everything go. How cheerful I am! ha. but any weird memories of my school are mostly overshadowed by the fact I am doing good work there now, even with covid weirdness.torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-31932166301427380522021-01-18T16:14:26.501-08:002021-01-18T16:14:26.501-08:00Thanks! We can't control what happens, but we ...Thanks! We can't control what happens, but we can reflect on it, right? haha.<br /><br />Interesting about the crone thing, lol. I have always had a very positive mental image of crones, maybe because I met artsy women at a young age who taught/modeled a positive image, and also because I read Clarissa Pinkola Estes very young, and she teaches feminine archetypes and their power. I understand the ambivalence about skipping "mother," though. I would suggest not interpreting "mother" too literally: think of yourself in your mothering roles, and see that as your mother (and grandmother) stage. Easier for me to say that though, I get that. Anyway, I like the idea of owning the crone/curmudgeon stage, as much as possible. I think I will be a very natural crone. There is a line from Diana Gabaldon that I love, spoken by an older wisewoman to Claire: "When your hair is white, you will come into your full power."<br /><br />Dance is always the best metaphor for life, too. Take care!torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-68280761726146796702020-12-31T20:59:14.619-08:002020-12-31T20:59:14.619-08:00I also had to avoid the bathroom at the pool where...I also had to avoid the bathroom at the pool where I first saw scant spots of blood for years even after I had Kate. Thank you for continuing to update your blog! jAllenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06282963869813954232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5227945636407573872.post-7065586193635257032020-12-31T18:09:10.099-08:002020-12-31T18:09:10.099-08:00What a lovely year in review! I'm glad it'...What a lovely year in review! I'm glad it's all things considered not been an earth-shattering year, and I'm glad it's a year where you truly feel resolved and on to the next stage of things (although I dislike the mother/crone thing because as not a mother, my only option is crone, and I have some vanity reasons to hate that, ha). I'm glad you're battling your fears. I also think that weird is beautiful, and there's something to be said for being able to function in a crisis or to be a little off the beaten path. The situation with your mom sounds difficult. It is hard to find yourself in a different role with your parent, and to feel that shift that makes it a loss of the relationship in a way, because of the stage. Love the updates on AJ and Dani. I like to think everything is one big dance class, too, what a wonderful way to go through life! :) Happy new year, lady!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.com