Monday, 8 June 2015
#Microblog Mondays: "Mom friends": Are they worth it?!
So, sometimes I think I should be trying harder to make "mom friends." Most of the small group of people I consider long term friends are child free and intend to stay that way, with the exception of one friend in the UK with a son, and another two who have gotten/are getting married this year and say they want children.
Yesterday one of my colleagues shared this blog entry The No-Bullshit, No-Drama Friendship Manifesto on Facebook. The second time I read it, I realized, Oh yeah, that's actually funny. The first time I read it (or skimmed it, rather) it made me want to curl up on the couch with a book and avoid all human contact.
I have to ask: Moms with mom-friends, or people who are forced to hang out with moms, is there really that much drama? Because if there is I think AJ can forget about play dates or birthday parties until she's old enough to go on her own. I can't deal with it!
Just kidding. Maybe.
Leave has definitely given me the option to get re-acquainted with my introvert side. It never went away, but while teaching full-time I didn't have much "alone time." I learned to cope with it. (There were also advantages to the job I had. Such as, working with the same students over 3 years, rather than new classes constantly. Many adults in the room, allowing for bathroom breaks pretty much when I wanted them. Which sometimes = sanity break. Probably another reason why I'm clawing pieces off myself contemplating a change.)
In all seriousness, there are at least two families in my city who I could make an effort to get together with. I seem to remember saying so to them. Two, three weeks ago? Where did the time go?
I feel like now is a great time to get to know people because AJ is so cute, I have an easy icebreaker. It's summer. People are outside. They talk to me as they pass on the street. Even call to me from their trucks. We have a very walkable neighbourhood. With an active community association. A new member of the legislature about my age, with a child. Mr. Turtle grew up (at least part of his childhood) in a neighbourhood where Everybody Knew Everybody. I'm so impressed by that and would love for AJ to have the same opportunities. If there was Drama it didn't seem to hurt my mother in law; she's quite happy.
So many opportunities!
So many books and blogs to read, too. Such as all the ones over at Microblog Mondays!